I think the important things are: bride/groom, friends/family, booze and a good photographer to remember the night! heck, the photographer can make a dingy place look pretty pimp with some touch-ups :)

But yes yes, Congratulations and all that, even though I congratulated you months ago, since unlike all your internet stalkers, I actually know your true identity!

I’m in the same predicament with your “boyrobot” (I’m having a hard time using all these codenames with a straight face). Miki is absolutely deadset against a wedding of any kind, A) because of the heinous planning it involves, B) her father has promised to try out his nascent Accordian skillz at the wedding, and C) probably because it reminds the world that she married a swarthy asshole from barbarian lands.

I just want a wedding as an excuse to get my family over to the village, we could have the ceremony in the bathroom of an Arbys for all I care.

But I definitely think you can’t let your parents push you around on this one. You gotta learn the art of compromise, do a few of their less odious requests, but temper them with your own. Tit for Tat. They want you to wear the red dress, then they have to agree to cancel the chicken plucking ceremony, or whatever. This is supposed to be YOUR day, after all.

Having just gone through my brother’s wedding (a Filipino-Vietnamese wedding!), I totally understand how daunting and stressful planning a wedding can be, especially when you have lots of people who want very different things from what you want. Is there any way you can talk to your parents and try to reach some kind of middle ground? Good luck with the planning!